I have a question: How do you define success?
Some folks define it through money and objects, trinkets or other “things" like collectibles, cars or homes. Others will tell you success is when they can get out of bed in the morning and make their own meal because they are so ill. Success is subjective, it’s not something we can define as a “when we get there moment.”
Success is what matters to us – to you – at the time it’s experienced. Success is on our terms.
My personal successes have ranged from buying my first car (on my own), to landing a part I really wanted when I was acting, to receiving a rejection for my book - that's right, peeps, I saw rejection as SUCCESS. Stop gasping. It took me years to see get this life lesson, and LOTS of fabulous therapy, but I got it and it's a learning moment I've held onto.
With rejection comes the lesson. For me it was getting past the “no” part of the email then reading the rest of it, the constructive notes the said rejecter, in this case a publisher I really, really wanted to work with, had to say. Guess what? Inside that email I found gold - nuggets of good advice for my career and positive feedback I wasn't expecting. I was still rejected, but at least I had some tangible info to work with for the next time. So really, I was protected... make sense?
Rejection is the Universe's protection - sit on that for a minute and soak it in.
Flip your view when the rejection comes and you're being protected, even shifted into the right space. You are know exactly where you're supposed to be. You're protected, not rejected. In this case, it's not personal, it's about growth. When you can hear the no or get feedback that you are not the right fit, and then process it and know that you are still on the right path, THAT is true freedom. And to me, this can be defined as success - it's one small part, but it truly is.
How do you define success?